When I talk about myself years ago, I always refer to myself as the Cardigan Queen. I didn’t wear colour and all I wanted to do was cover up my body with loose clothing. Then I started blogging and found an amazing world of beautiful and confident plus size women and a whole host of brands that offered fashionable clothes that fitted me.
Slowly, I came out of my cardigan shell and was a bit of a fashion minx (even if I say so myself!) I felt so confident in my outfit choices and wearing what I wanted became effortless. This continued when I became pregnant last year. I found that my confidence grew… along with my bump! I wasn’t afraid to show off my size. I felt totally comfortable in my own skin. Fast forward months later and here I am with a gorgeous little baby boy. But I feel like I’ve somehow sacrificed a bit of my confidence. My body has changed. You might look at me and think how? You seem the same. You’re right… I’m the same dress size. But my shape has changed. My belly has dropped and everything just feels different. I put on one of my favourite dresses the other day, looked in the mirror and just felt deflated.
I started to feel that Cardigan Queen in me return and I couldn’t shake it off. But you know what? I refused to let the change in my body shape defeat me. Sometimes in life, your body shape changes and you have to work with it. So I’m rebuilding my confidence. It’s taking its time but I’m remembering the clothes I loved before I was pregnant. The ones that I put on and made me feel good and I’m just changing it up a little bit.
Confidence is about finding what works for you. I’ve realised it’s great to follow trends and what’s hot, but at the end of the day: wear what makes you happy. You don’t have to stick to the same thing forever, across your life. Likewise, bodies do generally change shape over time so it’s OK for your style and fashion choices to change with it. One of the reasons I love navabi is because they understand that cut and fit is so important. They appreciate that bodies have different shapes and we aren’t in a world where one size fits all. I feel like they are a brand that are there as I progress as a person because they offer so much in terms of plus fashion. I appreciate that they are a part of helping me find myself again. That’s where confidence comes from. Making you happy.